Advice to Jaclyn - and everyone else:

I've read a growing collection of articles that indicate that people who strive to be happy end up being more stressed and discontent than people who don't bother.

I love this. Because there's few things more annoying than someone telling you to "buck up because the sun will come up" when you're fuming. And there's seldom any moment that, just to spite those people, you could wish with greater enthusiasm that it actually won't (man, that would show em!).

I'm not saying embracing bitterness and anger is a good thing - but if you're mad then you're mad and it may even be justified. When you're happy you're happy.

I just hope you don't end up as one of those folks who goes to bed at night with a headache because you've spent all day trying to be something you're not. Point is, though I don't know you well, you seem like a pretty rad person to me - even while pissed and resentful.

So f- it all - it's all gravy. Be angry. You're still cool in many people's rhetorical "books."